How to Support a Loved One with PTSD
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition in which a person struggles to recover after experiencing a stressful or terrifying event. PTSD may be caused by experiencing a traumatic event directly (car accident, assault, natural disasters, etc.), witnessing a traumatic event (such as through work as a first responder or any medical profession), repeated traumatic events (abuse and neglect), and military combat. Symptoms of PTSD include intrusive and distressing memories resurfacing, constant nightmares, intense reactions to anything that reminds one of a traumatic event, avoidance of anything that could trigger unwanted memories, and negative changes in thinking. PTSD can be an extremely debilitating condition for those who suffer from it, which is why it is so important for them to have a strong support system around them. Here is how you can support your loved ones who suffer from PTSD.
Educate Yourself on what PTSD is
Seek out reliable books, websites, and therapy resources to get all the information you need to truly be present for your loved one. You must understand that PTSD is a medical condition, not a character flaw, and don’t take it personally if your loved one begins to act distant from you.
Practice Active Listening Instead of Judgement
Instead of going in with an “I need to fix this” mindset, simply listen to what your loved one has to say without interrupting, and validate what they are feeling, even if you don’t fully understand. You also shouldn’t force them to talk about their experiences; let them talk about them on their own volition.
Be Patient with the Process
Understand that healing is not linear; your loved one may feel like they are improving one day but then might spiral right back into distress right after. There is no exact timeline when it comes to recovery, so you shouldn’t expect them to recover right away. One way you can support them through their recovery process is by celebrating any wins that they accomplish, big or small.
Encourage Professional Help
You can offer to help your loved one find a therapist who can also guide them through the healing process. However, you shouldn’t force them to see a therapist. Remember, them acting on their own volition is one of the biggest signs of strength and perseverance that one can show.
Don’t Forget to Take Care of Yourself
While supporting someone recovering from PTSD is something that should be praised, it doesn’t mean it is easy. It is a very emotionally taxing thing for anyone to experience, let alone someone who isn’t as well versed in navigating mental health issues. You can join a support group or talk with your own therapist in order to preserve your mental health. You shouldn’t feel bad for also taking care of yourself; it can also make you a stronger supporter.
Supporting loved ones who suffer from PTSD may not be easy, but the fact that you are there for them can be enough for them to push forward. Actions speak louder than words.
